The end of the semester is almost here, and your student may be feeling stressed. You wish you could help. Or perhaps your student is just a bit too relaxed about the urgency of the work that still needs to be done, and you wish you could light a little fire under them. 

In either of these cases, as a college parent, you may wonder what you can do to help your student cope with all that the end of a semester involves. The truth is that you are limited in what you can do — but that doesn’t mean that you can’t help in other meaningful ways. 

Brush up those listening skills 

There are many important points in our students’ lives when our listening skills may be the most important tool that we have in our toolkit. The end of the semester may be one of them. You may hear more from your student at this point, especially if they are feeling stressed. Then again, you may not hear as much — either because they are too busy to talk or write or because they are stressed and don’t want or know how to share those feelings. 

Whether you hear from your student a lot or a little, whenever you do connect, make sure you are listening carefully to what they have to say — including listening between the lines. Your student may be asking for advice about something, or they may just need to share, vent, or sense that you empathize with what they are going through right now. Listen carefully, allow yourself to be a sounding board and respond thoughtfully but sparingly. Guide your student to figure out what they need to do — or not do. Share your counsel, but respect (or at least accept) your student’s choices. 

Be patient 

Like listening, patience is not a new skill, but one that may be especially helpful at this time of the semester. Be patient if you don’t hear from your student as much as you’d like, or if your student gets upset or angry more quickly than usual. 

Guide your student to action 

One of the things that may happen if your student is feeling overwhelmed or stressed is that they feel as though they don’t know what to do or where to start. Help your student find a starting place to complete their work or prepare for exams. Suggest that they make a list, prioritize items and then choose just one thing to begin. Just getting started may be all that they need to do to begin to feel in control again. 

This is an important time to encourage your student to take advantage of the many academic, health and well-being and other resources available at Missouri S&T. If they are feeling stressed and overwhelmed, they may want to visit student well-being. College mental health counselors are trained to deal with the issues that many students experience at this time of the year. Stress-relieving activities such as therapy dog days bring students together and help them cope. Encourage your student to investigate what might be happening on campus and to take advantage of the opportunities. 

Encourage your student to talk to their professors about any work they still need to do. It’s not too late for dialogue. Suggest that your student take advantage of tutoring services such as Knack Tutoring (24/7 online and in-person tutoring) or the Student Success Center or the Writing and Communication Center for individualized assistance. There is help available, but students need to reach for it. 

Be the voice of reason 

Don’t dismiss whatever your student is feeling but do be the voice of reason if your student feels that everything is going wrong or that they will never be able to do what they need to do. It is possible that they may not be able to do everything, but they can probably do a lot that will make a difference. You may need to help them realize that. Reassure them. Suggest that they find some balance in their activities and also that they work at getting sleep and exercise and eating well. 

Postpone 

This is not the best time for any ”big” conversations or changes for your student. If you are concerned about anything or there are any important events happening at home, wait, if you are able, to bring them up with your student. You will have time for meaningful conversations over break, but right now your student needs to focus on school and what they need to accomplish. 

Send stuff 

This is the perfect time for a special care package from home, or order a student gift pack to help them stay fueled for studying. Cards or notes sent to your student’s mailbox can also brighten any day. 

The end-of-semester push is a difficult time for everyone. As a college parent, you can help your student manage successfully. 

Source 

Author: Vicki Nelson. Article adapted from https://www.collegeparentcentral.com/2014/12/how-can-parents-help-college-students-as-the-semester-ends/. Please Note: Missouri S&T does not endorse or have a relationship with SOURCE and articles are provided for information purposes only. Missouri S&T and SOURCE do not assume responsibility for error or omission in materials.    

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