Helping your student as the semester ends

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On April 26, 2023

The end of the semester is near and your college student may be feeling stressed.  You wish you could help.  Or perhaps it’s nearing the end of the semester and your college student is just a bit too relaxed about the urgency of the work that still needs to be done.  You wish you could light a little fire under them.

In either of these cases, as a college parent, you may wonder what you can do to help your student cope with all that the end of a semester involves.  The truth is that you are limited in what you can do to help — but that doesn’t mean that you can’t help in several important ways.

Once again — brush up those listening skills

There are many important points in our students’ lives when our listening skills may be the most important tool that we have in our toolkit.  The end of the semester may be one of them.  You may hear more from your student at this point, especially if they are feeling stressed.  Then again, you may not hear as much from your student — either because they are too busy to talk or write or because they are stressed and don’t want or know how to share those feelings.

Whether you hear from your student a lot or a little, whenever you do connect, make sure you are listening carefully to what they have to say — including listening between the lines.  Your student may be asking for advice about something, or they may just need to share, to vent, or to sense that you empathize with what they are going through right now.  Listen carefully, allow yourself to be a sounding board, and respond thoughtfully but sparingly.  Guide your student to figure out what they need to do — or not do.  Share your counsel, but respect (or at least accept) your student’s choices.

Be patient

Like listening, patience is not a new skill, but one that may be especially helpful at this time of the semester.  Be patient if you don’t hear from your student as much as you’d like.  Be patient if your student is temperamental or gets upset or angry more quickly than usual.

Guide your student to action

One of the things that may happen if your student is feeling overwhelmed or stressed is that they feel as though they don’t know what to do or where to start.  Help your student find a starting place to complete their work or prepare for exams.  Suggest that they make a list, prioritize items, and then choose just one thing to begin.  Just getting started may be all that they need to do to begin to feel in control again.

This is an important time to encourage your student to take advantage of all of the support and/or services available at their school.  If they are feeling stressed and overwhelmed, they may want to visit the Student Success Center.  College mental health counselors at Student Well-Being are trained to deal with the issues that many students experience at this time of the year.  There are many stress-relieving activities scheduled at this time to bring students together and help them cope, including therapy dogs.  Encourage your student to investigate what might be happening on campus and to take advantage of the opportunities.

Encourage your student to talk to their professors about any work they still need to do.  It’s not too late for dialogue.  Suggest that your student take advantage of tutoring services — either professional or peer tutoring — and even a Writing Center.   There is help available, but students need to reach for it.

Be the voice of reason

Don’t dismiss whatever your student is feeling, but do be the voice of reason if your student feels that everything is going wrong or that they will never be able to do what they need to do. It is possible that they may not be able to do everything, but they can probably do a lot that will make a difference, and you may need to help them realize that.  Reassure them.  Suggest that they find some balance in their activities and also that they work at getting sleep and exercise and eating well.

Be the coach

It may be time for that half-time ”locker room” talk.  Give your student a boost and let them know that they can do it.  The difficult time will not last forever.  Your student needs to stick with it, buckle down and get it done, bring all of their resources and focus to the tasks at hand.


This is not the best time for any ”big” conversations or changes for your student.  If you are concerned about anything or there are any important events happening at home, wait, if you can, to bring them up with your student.  You will have time for meaningful conversations over break, but right now your student needs to focus on school and what they need to accomplish.

Send stuff

This is the perfect time for a special care package from home and/or a few cards or notes sent to your student’s mailbox.  E-mails and e-cards are fine, too, but something in the mailbox — or a note to pick up a package can brighten any student’s day. Be sure to use the correct Missouri S&T residence hall address.

The end-of-semester push is a difficult time for everyone.  As a college parent, you can help your student manage successfully.


Author of Article: Vicki Nelson. Article adapted from  Please Note: Missouri S&T does not endorse or have a relationship with SOURCE and articles are provided for information purposes only.  Missouri S&T and SOURCE do not assume responsibility for error or omission in materials.  

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